Noisy neighbors is an issue as old as time. However, tensions are undoubtedly high these days.
“Most people have been spending a lot of time watching the news while they’re confined at home,” says Erik Wheeler, a mediator at Accord Mediation in Burlington, Vermont. “Fear activates the fight or flight response in the brain, which bypasses logical thinking.”
It’s never easy, but there are steps you can take to keep the peace in your neighborhood. It turns out that it is feasible to deal with whatever is on your mind—even during these tumultuous times—in a constructive, courteous manner.
Wheeler provides his suggestions for dealing with noisy neighbors as a guide. Here are a few noise conflict resolution techniques you can try.
Speak up.
Don’t be afraid to reach out to your neighbor directly. Be calm, but firm in what you’re asking for – this is usually enough to resolve noise issues at home or work.
Create a schedule together.
Letting your neighbor know which day to expect noise helps manage expectaitons. This allows everyone to feel more comfortable and reduces tension during times other than agreed upon by all parties involved.
Consider mediation.
Mediation will allow both sides to be heard equally while giving them an outlet that isn’t confrontational; most importantly, it ensures each party agrees with any solutions created before they go into effect.
Be the first to show kindness.
If the noise hasn’t been an issue for your neighbors in the past, consider rewarding them with a gift card or other token to show appreciation! Sending notes of gratitude are always well received and can keep relationships strong even if noise has become an issue between you.
If you don’t know much about your neighbors, it’s easy to get caught up in a heated text argument or discussion. But consider one question before sending that passive-aggressive text: Would you say this to a friend, your in-laws, or your employer?
You’re less likely to make the wrong judgments and explode at your neighbor if you know them a little better, according to Wheeler. While you don’t need to be BFFs with your neighbors, it’s in your best interests to get acquainted with them. Now and then, send them a text message just to check in on how their day went.
Approach your neighbor before there is a problem, get to know them, spend some time with them, and so on. It will pay off—having a conversation instead of a quarrel will be easier when they are noisy. Isn’t it what being a wonderful neighbor is all about?
